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What
is LOVE?
With Valentines Day just gone, I felt the need to touch
on the topic of love, now this is a very sensitive subject to focus on so
bare with me, I’ll try my best not to digress from the point that I’m trying
to make.
Now as many of you may have gathered already I’m 22 years old and dare I say I
have had my fair share of ladies in my time, believe me that truly isn’t
something to brag about. Maybe that underlines the problem that many men my age
and myself face, that being that since we have been with so many women that it isever-present that we have much to learn about them, and ideally ourselves.
And I can put my hand on my heart and honestly say that I haven’t always
understood the opposite sex and what it meant to truly love someone.
However I can say that in times of bliss I did eventually have the privilege of
both being loved and loving someone. And with that, this love gave me the vision
to develop an understanding not just of women, but also of myself. I never
really saw myself as being a deep or insightful person, well I didn’t use to
anyway, but life experiences, such as this tend to give you knowledge and ideally
the courage to explore depths of your being that you may of thought never existed.
When you are in love and that love is pure and when I say pure I mean as pure as
a mother giving birth to a new baby (minus the blood), and it is clear
that nothing that you can think of, in your life has ever felt as right as this,
you tend to be faced with a dilemma, not sure what I mean? Let me continue, so
what happens when this love begins to fade? What do you do? Do you abandon a love
that was once so true? Or do you stick by it in the hope that you can resurrect
it like a Phoenix from the ashes? It’s tuff isn’t it? And these are just
words imaging having to actually make that decision, a decision that you couldn’t
of even fathomed making before is now, very much so a reality.
Everyone deals with their problems in their own way that’s what makes human so
special we are all unique, but personally I can say that when you feel as though
that pure love is fading, you may have to ask yourself an important question,
that being;
‘Can I make this work?’
Now it doesn’t matter how much of a decisive person you normally
are, but for some strange reason love, be it the love that you
once had, has clouded your judgment.
Could it be that subconsciously you are scared of being alone? Or could it be
that your worried that you will never find anything that comes close to what you
had experienced?
(Those two questions are rhetorical; I’ll let you reflect
on them and yourself in your own time)
For those who want to know I have always looked at love as being a commitment,
and I tend to give my all in a relationship, (sometimes giving a little too
much but cut me some slack I’m only human) so that if by the grace of God things door don’t work out, for whatever reason that may be I wouldn’t have any regrets.
Lets look at that word commitment, to commit or to be committed, is to be
loyal, dedicated or devoted to something. Now this may be hard in your present
state because you begin to question your love for this person, and once you do
that you have already questioned your loyalty, devotion and dedication to them.
So what do you do? A common mistake is to look back on the times when things
were good; I believe they call it the ‘Honeymoon Period’, and you begin to be
filled with bliss by having recurring nostalgic memories and feelings about the
past. Now as good as that feels, to think about that explosive first kiss, or
the first time you said you loved your partner, by doing that you merely
confuses yourself even more, the fact that you continue to look back, begs me to ask
the question:
‘Why can’t you look forward?’
Everyone has a vision of the perfect partner, but in the world
that we live is it true to believe that anyone is perfect? By injecting
that image of perfection into your mind, you merely over look the beauty
of imperfection.
Remember humans are imperfect, look around you and you
will see what I’m saying. Now for you to crave a perfect being as your partner,
all you end up doing is looking for something that doesn’t exist in reality,
but something that exists in your mind.
‘True love does not come by finding the perfect person,
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly’ – Jason Jordan
Now on a personal note, (and yes if your wondering this article
has been somewhat personal) I would be foolish to think that I
could solely summaries what it is to love, all I can do is simply give my own
view son love in the hope that it relates to others, others being you the readers.
Did it Work?
P.S Hope you enjoyed a Happy Valentines Day
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