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THE LOVE THING
By Eric Orji
E-mail: ayoadehat@yahoo.co.uk |
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CAN YOU MAKE A MAN FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU?
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DID YOU know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, you have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, to influence a man, to bring him to his knees, to make him want to spend his life with you, and want to fulfil your every desire? Yes, it's true! And the best part is that you can do it easily and effortlessly by being yourself -- and not shaping yourself into someone you're not just to keep your man interested. Maybe as you read this article, you'll discover how to tap into the power that resides within you, whether you want to revolutionise your dating life, get married or spark the fire within your marriage.
Have you ever met the kind of woman that men fall hopelessly in love with, whom men want to spend all their time with, whom men want to please and do anything for, who brings out the romantic and passionate side of a man and to whom men want to give everything? What special quality, trait, or personality does this woman have that attracts men like a magnet, makes men powerless in her hands, and makes them want to spend their lives with her? |
I've personally met many women like this, and here's the startling observation I've made: These women are not necessarily the most beautiful, the tallest, the smartest, the one with the most gorgeous hair, sexy legs or the most ample breasts, as one might think!
A look back in history reveals the likes of Wallis Simpson (a divorcee), for whom the Duke of Windsor abdicated the throne of England, the earlytwentieth- century French writer Colette (described as having a "frightful" appearance), who managed to have numerous male conquests, Martha Gellhorn, the plain-looking scholar for whom Ernest Hemingway became love-sick and never recovered, Mumtaz, for whom the Emperor Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal and the women throughout history who have won the hearts of Princes and Kings.
These women know the secret to creating magic with men. And here's the good news for you, if you're like most women who struggle with relationship challenges. The ability to create magic with men is not really magic at all. It's a skill which can be learned by any woman, and that includes you!
There are many reasons why women have relationship challenges but the main one is that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them fall in love with her, and give her everything her heart desires. The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things. They seek advice from their friends, and they rely on relationship advice from women's magazines. By all means, seek the listening ear of a friend if you simply want to unburden, and if talking to your friend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your friends results in deeper and better friendships with your friends, but does little to improve your relationships with men.
What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just by being yourself? Yes, you don't have to be anything but yourself. There's just one condition. You also have to understand what a man wants.
Here's the big secret. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman, and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good. Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick, and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they? There's so much more to making a man feel good than meets the eye.
We're back together after he cheated
Dear LoveThing,
My ex and I never had a problem until I started working a lot. Our schedules clashed, and we didn't see each other as often. One weekend he went away. When he came back, he broke up with me. He had sex with someone else. He said he felt so guilty that he could no longer be with me.
Now, he keeps calling and saying he loves me and he wants me back. I know he really knows he made a mistake. He says he will make it up to me. I told him he had to tell his parents he cheated on me, tell the girl she was a mistake with me there, and then we have to build our friendship again. Should I even consider taking him back?
---SASSY
Your ability to regain trust is a personal decision. No two people are alike. I think you are on the right track with the requests you've made. Your decision has to be made on whether or not you will continually wonder if he's cheating on you. If he goes away again, will you be worried about his faithfulness? Do you feel you will have a "one-up" over him because he did this? If so, you might reconsider getting back together. A relationship needs an even respect for each other. It is not impossible to build a solid relationship after an affair, but it takes two very committed people with nothing, but honest and open communication. If you feel your relationship will have anything less than that, don't do it.
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